In a dysfunctional relationship, addictions happen to me.
A relationship is dysfunctional when it fails to meet my emotional needs.
Addictive substances are a substitute for the emotional energy that the relationship is failing to provide.
My addiction is to a substance that I become dependent on.
In a functional relationship, attachments happen by me.
I attach my Self to a relationship that happens by my choice.
The function of the relationship is to meet my emotional needs or as with a co-dependent relationship, meet our mutual needs for emotional energy.
My attachment is to a person or a pet that is dependent or co-dependent.
In an interdevelopmental relationship, a connection happens through me.
I connect with a partner who is equally & equably connected in equanimity.
My connection is with a partner who shares my true values as distinct from my attachment to a partner for what I need emotionally.
Independence or inner dependence happens through me, or mutually through each partner.
Our Connection is to the Universal Oneness at our Soul level.