Caring is an act of love. The question is: What aspect of love am I expressing when I am doing the act of caring? Caring has a duality of uncaring, which is not acting with love.
Pure Love is a divine and perfect attribute that has no duality. The polarity of pure love is always positively beneficial, it is never detrimental, so it has no negative polarity. The way that I direct my choice, relative to my perspective, is what gives it polarity and determines whether it is expressed with pure or impure love.
Caring is an act of love, which can have an intense range of purity or impurity. The quality of care is relative to the quality of the love with which it is delivered. The physical act of caring can be carried out with a range of caring or uncaring emotions. The quality of care is therefore relative to the quality of the emotion with which it is given or received.
Both the carer and the patient have their own perspective of the quality of the care that is given or received and their relative perspectives may differ considerably.
When caring has a duality of uncaring and love has a duality of being unloving, perfect care is the act of administering care with pure love. The question is: When is love pure?
Does perfect caring with pure love actually exist in a dual reality world?
If the act of perfect care is administered with pure love, then the understanding of pure love is essential to the administration of quality care. Quality of care becomes relative to the quality of the love with which it is administered. To administer to a patient with care is an act of divine love, unless it is an act of impure love.
An impure aspect of love is any negative emotional state of being that is founded on impure thinking and a limited belief system. It is generally accepted that love has three opposing aspects when seen from a negatively physical, mental & emotional perspective.
Physical love or the love of physical things is called lust or desire as opposed to what I love emotionally with a passion. My emotional passion is either a true value or a need. I truly love what has true value for me or it is an emotional need because I emotionally need it. What I do not mentally love, I fear.
Three dimensional spiritual love has a physical, a mental and an emotional aspect. Each aspect has a duality of its negative perspective.
Love & lust is emotional passion in opposition to physical desire. It is pure love divided by male & female gender and referred to as Eros or sexual love.
Love or hate is determined by my perspective of whether I like something or I dislike something. I love what I need and I hate what I don’t need because whether I like it or not is relative to whether I believe that I need it or not. This divides pure love by positive or negative polarity and is called Philos or platonic love.
Love & fear is a mental perception of whether something is beneficial or detrimental for me personally. When something is beneficial, I love it and when it is detrimental, I fear it, whether it is caused by either sexual or platonic love is irrelevant.
Only perfect or pure love is undivided by either gender or polarity and is called Agape. The real irony is that anything less than true agape is not something that I will truly care for.
Lust, hate & fear are the three aspects of negative love that disable the act of caring. Nobody ever cares for an expression of love based on lust, hate or fear. However we do love someone that we need because they appear to care. When I need physical, mental or emotional care, I like or love the person who administers it beneficially with love & care.
The paradox is that need is the absence of love. I only ever love what I need when I get what I need and when I get what I need, I no longer need it, because I have it. Care is a prime example of an aspect of love that I need but when I have it, I no longer need it or want it.
Nobody ever consciously chooses to need care, yet everyone chooses to have someone they care for, and who cares for them. It is as though we all sub-consciously choose to have someone who cares for us, cares about us and takes care of us, so that we no longer need care and no longer need to care.
This paradox is caused by defining care as having our needs met in a beneficial way. All emotional needs are negative when I need them, yet positive when I meet them. Care is seen as beneficial and positive when it meets my needs, which are negative and detrimental when they remain uncared for. I only need something when I believe that I do not have it. The belief that I do not have something causes a belief that the experience of not having it is detrimental and negative, which is anything that I do not care for.
With dementia, I end up needing care for everything that I have not taken care of or are now unable to take care of for myself.
Caring is an act that can be be either beneficial or detrimental because it is only required through my experiencing life with an aspect of impure love. It is an act that is performed by someone else that I will love or hate, love or fear, need or not relative to their perspective and my perception of love.
Ironically, an act of caring is only ever required in the absence of true agape and a true love for one’s Self. When I truly love my Self, I am care free.