Dementia is my fate but it is not my destiny. It occurs to me that fate is what occurs to me. When life happens to me, I experience it as my fate. I believe that whatever happens in my life is fated to occur by some unexplained external source, of which, I am unaware and therefore unable to control.
In a dual reality world, what occurs to me is that whatever turns up can be either good or bad. I call this being lucky or being unlucky. When good things often turn up, I believe that I am normally lucky but when bad things always turn up, I believe that I am naturally unlucky. Believing that being unlucky is my nature causes this to become my normal experience.
Lucky people experience good fortune because they believe that they are generally lucky. Lucky people see being lucky as their fate, whilst unlucky people see themselves as doomed to experience the misfortune of their fate.
Unlucky people are doomed to get old and contract dementia because it is their fate, unless that is, they are lucky enough to look after themselves long enough to die of something else. Dementia is contractual with negative thinking, although nobody sees dementia as part of their contract with life. Negative thinkers don’t actually see their thinking as negative.
When I look after myself, life happens by me. When life appears to happen by me, I believe that I make my own luck. When I believe that I make my own luck, I make my own choices in life and I do it my own way. Making my own choices and doing it my own way is called independence.
Independent people make life happen by them, whereas dependent people are at the fate of whoever they are depending on to look after their needs. If they are lucky, they have good people taking care of them. If not, they are doomed to be victims of an uncaring society that sees them as a burden. The irony is that when I see myself as a burden on society, so does society see me as a burden on society because, I am whatever I believe myself to be.
My beliefs create my experience of reality, as do your beliefs create your experience of reality. When I believe that I am doomed, I am and when I believe that sh*t happens, it does. When I believe that I am lucky, I am and when I believe that someone cares for me, they do.
When I believe that I am independent and can take care of myself, I am expected to walk my talk and demonstrate the truth of my own beliefs. When what I believe is not generally seen to be true and my perspective of life is not in alignment with other people’s, they will question my mental capacity. When I believe that I don’t need other people and other people experience that I do, they question my capacity to make normal, competent choices.
Dementia causes the inability to effectively walk my own talk and so instead of life happening by me, life happens to me by other people. Other people feel that they have to make decisions for me and life happens to me, by them.
Independence means that life happens by me. Dementia means that life happens to me, by other people. I become a victim of a fate determined by other people. In actuality, my fate is always determined by other people. It is my fate to be born into the family that I grow up in. It is my fate to be taught by my teachers, in school and my preachers, in church.
My socio-demographic is a description of the class of people that I am fated to grow up with. The principles of my family, the ethics of my society, the morals of my religion & the laws of my government all become my fate. I am fated to behave in alignment with the normal beliefs & standards of my culture & my society.
Dementia has no class or culture, age or sex. It does not discriminate. It is either my fate or it is not. When I believe that I will get senile with age, then that will become my experience and my fate, irrespective of my social class, ethnic origin, nationality or sex.
Dementia is not my destiny. Paradoxically it is the fate of an unfulfilled destiny. Solving the paradox requires a clear distinction between my fate & my destiny.
When life happens to me, it is either my fate or my doom. When life happens by me, my fate is in my own hands and it is either my fortune or my misfortune. When my perspective is that life happens through me, I allow my destiny to unfold.
My destiny is my true purpose for this lifetime. To allow my destiny to unfold, I am required to know my vision for my life. I can only allow my life to unfold once I know that my life is unfolding in alignment with my destiny. It is this insight that allows my purpose to be clearly known. I cannot reach my destination without knowing in which direction it lies. My intuitive vision outlines the path of my destiny and allows me to fulfil it with purpose.
I can only intuitively know the vision, mission & purpose of my destiny, as nobody else can tell me what it is. Whatever I intuitively know, can never be forgotten. Aligned with my destiny, I am connected to the source of my inner guidance that always knows my path.
Dementia is my fate, not my destiny. I cannot be connected to my source of inspiration and intuitively fulfilling my destiny, living my vision for my life, and have dementia. Dementia is not part of my divinely expansive contract with life.