I was born into a world that was the reality of my parents at that point in time and space.
I could not be born into my own reality because at that age I was too young to realise my own reality.
The question is not: “Who chose my reality at birth”? My parents did.
The question is: “Did my parents choose me, or did I choose my parents”?
The answer to this question decides either my fate or my destiny.
If my parents chose me, then I am the subject of my fate, which is their reality and their fate.
If I chose my parents, then I am choosing my reality and my destiny, and my destiny is to choose my own reality.
If I believe that my parents chose me then I have no alternative but to accept their fate as my own. I have no choice.
“Do I have a choice”? is the fundamental question.
The answer is that “I do have choice”, when I believe that to be so.
I know that I have choice and I know that I chose my parents, although it took me 50 years to realise this.
Realising that I have choice, and that my life is always the consequence of that choice, has changed my life, because I realised that I could, and I did, and I continue to to do so.
I no longer choose my fate, only my destiny.