I have a Secure Attachment with someone who, or something that, unconditionally meets my emotional needs.
With an insecure attachment, I become very insecure & emotionally needy.
Being emotionally insecure causes dramas that can cause lasting traumas.
Avoiding dramas & overcoming trauma requires a secure attachment to whatever meets my emotional needs.
A co-dependent relationship is a bond between two people that is a secure attachment.
The most common bond of secure attachment in a co-dependent relationship is called marriage.
A marriage remains secure as long as the co-dependent bond remains emotionally attached.
A secure attachment between a councellor or therapist & their client is a strategy that may be financially lucrative but is ethically non-conducive to good practice.
When coaching clients, sensitive detachment is more mutually beneficial & productive than a secure attachment.